Services

Couples Therapy

For couples who keep ending up in the same place.

Virtual sessions available in GA, AL, CA, FL, ID, NY, NC, OR, TX, VA, and WY.

Introduction

Most couples who come to me have had the same fight dozens of times. They know exactly how it goes. One person says something, the other reacts, and within minutes they’re back in the same argument they’ve been having for years.

Or they’ve stopped fighting altogether. The house is quiet, but not in a good way. Someone checked out. Someone gave up. The distance grew so slowly they didn’t notice until it was just how things were.

Either way, something got lost. That’s what we work on getting back.

What’s Actually Happening

It's usually not the thing you're fighting about.

Most couples think the blowups are the problem. The fight about the dishes. The argument about money. The thing that happened at your mother’s house.

Usually it’s the smaller moments underneath.

A request that came out like criticism. A bid for connection that got missed. A need that never got named, so it kept showing up sideways.

In session, we slow things down. I help you hear what’s actually being asked for, even when it’s buried under frustration or silence.

Once that’s clear, you stop talking past each other.

What to Expect

What couples therapy actually looks like

We meet for 50 minutes over video.

I’ll ask questions. I’ll notice patterns. If something shows up between you in the room, I’ll name it. Not to put either of you on the spot, but because those moments usually tell us where the real stuff is.

I’m not going to sit quietly and let you talk in circles. I’m also not going to take sides. My job is to help you both feel heard and to figure out what keeps getting in the way.

Some sessions will feel heavy. Others will feel clarifying. Sometimes there’s relief when something finally lands. Most couples tell me they feel a shift within the first few weeks.

Not because everything’s fixed, but because something’s finally moving.

If one of you isn't sure about this

That’s common. A lot of couples come in with one person who’s been wanting to try therapy and one person who agreed to show up but isn’t sold.

That’s fine. I don’t need you both to be enthusiastic. I need you both to be willing to sit in the room and be honest.

If you’re the one who got talked into this, I’m not going to gang up on you. I’m not going to tell you everything you’re doing wrong. I’m going to ask questions and try to understand what’s happening from where you’re standing.

Give it a few sessions. See what you think.

What We Work On

Common things couples bring in

The same argument that keeps coming back, no matter how many times you try to resolve it.

One person who shuts down and one who pushes. Or two people who’ve both gone quiet.

Feeling like roommates instead of partners. Going through the motions but not really connecting.

Trust that got damaged. An affair, a lie, something that broke the foundation.

Big life transitions. A move, a baby, a job change, retirement. Something shifted and you haven’t found your footing.

Money. How you spend it, save it, talk about it, fight about it.

Sex and intimacy. What’s missing, what’s changed, what nobody wants to bring up.

In-laws, parenting disagreements, different visions of the future.

You don’t need to fit neatly into a category. If something’s not working, we can look at it

How I approach this

I’ll tell you what I’m seeing. If one of you keeps interrupting, I’ll point it out. If I notice someone shutting down, I’ll slow things down and check in.

I don’t do a lot of “and how does that make you feel?” I’m more interested in what’s actually happening between you and what’s underneath it.

I’ll give you things to try between sessions. Small things. A different way to start a conversation. A way to ask for what you need without it turning into a fight. You’ll practice, and we’ll talk about what worked and what didn’t.

I tell most couples the goal is to put me out of a job. I want you to leave with tools you can actually use.

"Andy Williams is by far one of the best therapists I’ve ever worked with. He approaches his work with enthusiasm, curiosity, and collaboration. As someone who has appreciated Andy’s mentorship over many years I’ve been particularly inspired by how we works with men and couples."

"Andy Williams is a fantastic therapist—compassionate, insightful, and easy to talk to. I wouldn’t hesitate to recommend him to anyone looking for support. He’s someone I genuinely trust to help others navigate life’s challenges."

"Andy Williams is a rare clinician. He’s attuned, intuitive, and highly skilled. He’s know for establishing trust and rapport quickly and authentically. His ability to “get it” and to understand both the spoken and unspoken makes him a great therapist."

FAQ

Questions I get asked.

1. How long does couples therapy take?

It depends. Some couples come for a few months, get what they need, and move on. Others check in periodically over a longer stretch. We’ll talk about what makes sense as we go.

2. What if my partner won't come?

That happens. Sometimes one person starts with individual sessions, and the partner joins later. Sometimes individual work is where it needs to start. We can figure out what makes sense for your situation.

3. Do you take sides?

Yes and no. I don’t blame anybody for the problems they are experiencing in the relationship. We are all doing the best that we can. That said, couples therapy is an opportunity to learn to do better for our partner and for ourselves. When that starts to happen it feels better for you both individually and for the ‘us’ the two of you create.

4. Is this like what I've seen on TV?

Probably not. We’re not going to sit in silence while you wonder what I’m thinking. It’s more of a conversation. I ask questions. I share what I notice. We work on things together.

See if this is a fit.

Book a free 25-minute consultation.

You can tell me what’s going on, ask questions, and we’ll figure out if working together makes sense.