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Financial Therapy
For couples where money has become the sore spot.
Virtual sessions available in GA, AL, CA, FL, ID, NY, NC, OR, TX, VA, and WY.
The fight about money is usually about something else.
You know the pattern. A bill shows up. One of you tenses. The other sighs or goes quiet. Ten minutes later you’re in a full argument, and somehow it stopped being about the bill a long time ago.
Money fights sound like they’re about spending, saving, debt, or control.
Most of the time they’re about fear, trust, how you grew up, and what feels safe. That’s what we work on.
What This Work Is (and Isn’t)
This isn't about spreadsheets
I’m not going to help you build a budget or give you tips on paying off debt faster. There are good financial planners for that.
What I do is help you understand why money creates so much tension in the first place. We look at your money stories, the ones you absorbed growing up, the ones you tell yourself now, and how those stories clash when two people try to build a life together.
When the emotional part gets clearer, the practical part gets easier.
How It Shows Up
Two people, one account, two completely different reactions.
One person sees a restaurant charge and thinks, “We agreed to cut back.” The other person sees it and thinks, “I work hard and I’m allowed to enjoy something.”
Neither one is wrong. But they’re not having the same conversation. One is talking about security. The other is talking about freedom. Until you name what’s underneath, you keep circling the same argument.
Some version of this happens with savings, purchases, family gifts, retirement, debt, raising kids.
The topic changes, but the pattern stays.
What to expect
We meet for 50 minutes over video. We start by understanding your individual relationships with money. Where did your beliefs come from? What did you learn watching your parents? When does money make you anxious, and when does it make you feel secure?
Then we look at the patterns between you. Where do you clash? Where do you shut down? What’s the unspoken rule you’re each following that the other person never agreed to?
This isn’t about blame. It’s about seeing the full picture so you can have different conversations.
What changes
Couples who do this work start talking about money without someone getting defensive or checking out. They stop keeping score. They get better at naming what they actually need instead of criticizing what the other person did.
You won’t agree on everything. That’s not the goal.
The goal is to understand each other well enough that disagreements don’t become fights.
Stats
Research shows that 20 to 40 percent of couples who divorce cite financial issues as a major factor. Couples who argue about money weekly are significantly more likely to split.
But money conflict isn’t a death sentence.
Couples who learn to talk about money, including the emotions that come with it, often find it strengthens everything else too.
FAQ
Questions I get asked.
1. Is financial therapy the same as financial planning?
No. I’m a therapist, not a financial advisor. I don’t give advice about investments, budgets, or retirement plans. Financial therapy is about the emotions and patterns underneath your money decisions. Fear, control, avoidance, shame. Once you understand those, the practical money conversations get a lot easier.
2. Do we talk about actual numbers?
Sometimes. But the numbers aren’t the point. What matters is how each person reacts to those numbers and why. Two people can look at the same bank statement and feel completely different things. That’s where the real work is.
3. Can I do financial therapy without my partner?
Yes. Your relationship with money started long before your current relationship. Sometimes it makes sense to look at your own patterns first. We can figure out what works for you.
You can stop spinning on this.
If money has become the thing you avoid, the thing that always starts a fight, or the thing that sits between you even when you don’t talk about it, that can change.
We figure it out together.